Do you think she is spoiled?

Today someone called Aubrey spoiled.  Now, I do not think this was meant to be hurtful but it did make me think about how other people view Aubrey's behavior.  Do I think she is spoiled? Yes, of course she is to some degree.  Aubrey is an only child who has her mother with her almost every minute of the day. Seth and I have done well financially and Aubrey has been given many extra things in life.  I think any child in that situation, special needs or not, would come to except certain things in life.  Aubrey expects to be able to have her iPad when she is not doing anything else.  She knows that she does not get to have it if she is at school, taking a walk, doing speech exercises at home, riding a horse, swimming, or doing any other mentally stimuating activity.  I have seen so much negative information about how it affects her brain or social interation. Being non verbal at six years old must be very frustrating for her.  She does not know how to have a full conversation with her communication device nor she does not have the patience to type out an entire conversation.  Her iPad is a way for her to avoid extensive interation with new people.  It diverts the attention away from her inability to speak like the rest of us are doing. She is able to constantly keep her mind stimulated with it and she knows and loves the characters in the shows that she watches.  I know that if I could not speak to anyone, I would not want to sit in a room full of people talking and listen to them talk, especially if I was a child and didn't understand what the adults were usually talking about. Take time to consider what your life would be like if you could not speak. If you want to judge the decisions I make as a parent, that is understandable. However, take time put yourself into Aubrey's situation before you judge her actions.